Job loss, rejection and inexperience can significantly undermine your confidence in the job search. Employers and recruiters can tell the difference between candidates who possess confidence and those who don’t. If you’re one of those who don’t, employers are likely to wonder why they should have confidence in you if you don’t have it.
Confidence doesn’t come naturally to most people. The good news is that you can develop it, just like any muscle or character trait, if you’re willing to work hard at it. Here are some tips to help you strengthen your confidence.
- Mindset – knowing that you are capable is central to a positive self-image. Believe in yourself and your abilities. You must believe that you are the ideal employee who can produce great results for your targeted employers. You can accomplish this by minimising doubt, viewing failure as a temporary setback, and looking for the good in every adverse situation.
- Goals – decide what you want to accomplish, both in your career and personal life. Reaching goals is a tremendous confidence builder. It also spurs you to set higher goals.
- Comfort zone – push yourself beyond your known limits, and see how successful you can be. When you realise what you can accomplish, your confidence soars. Your potential is unlimited. You are the only one who can limit it.
- Failure – accept that failure is not the end of the world. Learn from your mistakes. Understand that the pursuit of perfection often limits your accomplishments. Many great achievements have been far from perfect, but were more than good enough to be proud of..
- Comparisons – glossy magazines bombard us with images of celebrities who in turn become our: ‘role models.’ We beat ourselves up when making comparisons between us and them. I learnt the hard way, growing up, that to compare yourself with others is a wrong path to take. Don’t compare yourself. Focus on your own achievements and ambitions, not anyone else’s.
- Teach people – people consciously and unconsciously notice and treat you according to how you think about yourself. If you expect to be walked all over, ignored or dismissed, you will be. You need to teach people how to treat you, change the way you treat yourself.
- Saying No – saying “yes” is easy. There’s no hassle in saying yes. The master skill, however, is saying “no.” Everyone can say yes. No is hard because it causes conflict in relationships. A confident person will be able to say no with no hesitation.
- Happiness – what makes me happy? It’s a question we all should ask ourselves. You might think winning the lotto will make you happy or a new house or a new car or your dream job. But in trying to answer this question you will probably find it to be a more difficult question than you would expect. What I have learnt from life and the adversity I have faced is that it is the little things that make me happy.