It’s normal to feel hurt, vulnerable, or angry after losing a job. The good news is that despite the stress of job loss and unemployment, there are many things you can do to take control of the situation.
You can get through this tough time by taking care of yourself, reaching out to others, and focusing on your goals. Losing your job can also be an opportunity to take stock of your life, rethink your career goals, and rediscover what truly makes you happy.
Our jobs give us structure, purpose, and meaning. That’s why job loss and unemployment is one of the most stressful things you can experience. Losing a job also comes with other losses, some of which may be even harder to face. These include:
- Professional identity
- Self-esteem and self-confidence
- Daily routine and purposeful activity
- A work-based social network
- Your sense of security
These emotions are normal. You have every right to be upset, so accept your feelings and go easy on yourself.
Also remember that many, if not most, successful people have experienced major failures in their careers. But they’ve turned those failures around by picking themselves up, learning from the experience, and trying again.
You can grow stronger when bad things happen or when unemployment happens. Trust me I have been there I know how it feels. What I have learnt from my personal experiences is that you become more resilient in the process of overcoming barriers.
Here are some suggestions to overcome any job blues:
- Face your feelings – Fear, depression, and anxiety will make it harder to get back on the job market, so it’s important to actively deal with your feelings and find healthy ways to grieve.
- Beware of Pitfalls – Taking refuge in your “cave” may provide temporary comfort, but is little help if your time spent there is not constructive. Surrounding yourself with positive, supportive family and friends may better help your self-esteem.
- Addictions – It takes courage and strength to face up to any type of addiction, whether it’s alcohol, drugs, nicotine, gambling, the internet, or self-injury. But no matter how bad the addiction or how powerless you feel, there is hope and help available. Don’t give up, even if you’ve tried and failed before.
- Reach Out – Don’t underestimate the importance of other people when you’re faced with job loss and unemployment. Be proactive. Let people know that you lost your job and are looking for work.
- Job Club – Join or start a job club – Other job seekers can be invaluable sources of encouragement, support, and job leads.
- Involve your family – Unemployment affects the whole family, so keep the lines of communication open. Tell your family what’s going on and involve them in major decisions.